We are all carrying around a weight that people don't often see. Many of us wear a mask in order to cover up the struggle going on inside our head; smile and small talk, when in reality we are internally fixated on some inadequacy, or balancing several. It might be a flaw we perceive in ourself that no one else sees at all, after all, we do tend to be much tougher on ourselves than we are on anyone else. But, no one else can change that focus. It's kind of like that little blemish you have on your chin, but when you look in the mirror it's ALL that you see, it's all that you think about while you are awkwardly having a conversation with someone. Meanwhile, that person doesn't notice it at all, they are looking are your beautiful eyes or listening to your quick wit. It's where your focus lies.
For too long I focused on my flaws, mistakes and imperfections, which led me to a place where I felt undeserving of the blessings in my life! I battled that for several years, constantly wondering when the shoe was going to drop. Most people had no idea what was going on in my head, but when do we really know what anyone around us is coping with?
A change in Focus begins with self-love and self-care. Too many people, especially Moms, neglect themselves & feel guilty about making time to fill their own cup. Take the time to write down your "daily bread." A list of things that you need in your day to make you feel good about yourself! They can be things as simple as a workout, a shower, a meal beside a handful of goldfish and a bite of leftover banana, an uninterrupted conversation with your spouse, quiet time with your child, helping someone. Whatever gives you a feeling of fulfillment! Then try to work those things into each day.
After learning to give to myself the "daily bread" I need to feel self-worth, my focus has changed. When I think of myself, many of my flaws fade to the background, my mistakes are still there but have instead become lessons and building blocks. I embrace my imperfections as marks on me left by life, my YOUniqueness and all are what make me different. A shift of focus and a little bit of SELF care can change how you take on each day and all the it holds!
Make time for YOU, It all starts there! You are the only YOU, this world will ever have!
Make time for YOU, It all starts there! You are the only YOU, this world will ever have!
